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<figure><a href=""><img title="Burnout photo by Michael Himbeault used under cc" style="display: inline" alt="Burnout photo by Michael Himbeault used under cc" src="" width="999" height="330"></a></figure> <p><a href="">Sarah Mei</a> had a great series of tweets last week. She's a Founder of RailsBridge, Director of Ruby Central, and the Chief Consultant of <a href="">DevMynd</a> so she's experienced with work both "on the job" and "on the side." Like me, she organizes OSS projects, conferences, but she also has a life, as do I.</p> <p>If you're reading this blog, it's likely that you have gone to a User Group or Conference, or in some way did some "on the side" tech activity. It could be that you have a blog, or you tweet, or you do videos, or you volunteer at a school.</p> <p>With Sarah's permission, I want to take a moment and call out some of these tweets and share my thoughts about them. I think this is an important conversation to have. </p> <center> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p lang="en" dir="ltr">My career has had a bunch of long cycles (months or years in length) of involvement &amp; non-involvement in tech stuff outside of work.</p>— Sarah Mei (@sarahmei) <a href="">August 31, 2016</a></blockquote></center> <p>This is vital. Life is cyclical. You aren't required or expected to be ON 130 hours a week your entire working life. It's unreasonable to expect that of yourself. Many of you have emailed me about this in the past. "How do you do _____, Scott?" How do you deal with balance, hang with your kids, do your work, do videos, etc. </p> <p>I don't.</p> <p>Sometimes I just chill. Sometimes I play video games. Last week I was in bed before 10pm two nights. I totally didn't answer email that night either. Balls were dropped and the world kept spinning. </p> <p>Sometimes you need to be told it's OK to stop, Dear Reader. Slow down, breathe. Take a knee. Hell, take a day. </p> <center> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p lang="en" dir="ltr">When we pathologize the non-involvement side of the cycle as "burnout," we imply that the involvement side is the positive, natural state.</p>— Sarah Mei (@sarahmei) <a href="">August 31, 2016</a></blockquote></center> <p><script async src="//" charset="utf-8"></script>Here's where it gets really real. We hear a lot about "burnout." Are you REALLY burnt? Maybe you just need to chill. Maybe going to three User Groups a month (or a week!) is too much? Maybe you're just not that into the tech today/this week/this month. Sometimes I'm so amped on <a href="">3D printing</a> and sometimes I'm just...not.</p> <p>Am I burned out? Nah. Just taking in a break.</p> <center> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p lang="en" dir="ltr">But you know what? Your kids are only babies once (thank goodness). Those rocks won't climb themselves. Etc. And tech will still be here.</p>— Sarah Mei (@sarahmei) <a href="">August 31, 2016</a></blockquote></center><script async src="//" charset="utf-8"></script> <p>Whatever you're working on, likely it will be there later. Will you? </p> <p>Is your <a href="">software saving babies</a>? If so, kudos, and please, keep doing whatever you're doing! If not, remember that. Breathe and remember that <a href="">while the tech is important, so are you and those around you</a>. Take care of yourself and those around you. You all work hard, but are you <a href="">paying yourself first</a>?</p> <p><strong>You're no good to us dead.</strong></p> <center> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p lang="en" dir="ltr">Don't pathologize one side as "burnout" - just accept that the cycles happen. You'll be back around again.</p>— Sarah Mei (@sarahmei) <a href="">August 31, 2016</a></blockquote></center><script async src="//" charset="utf-8"></script> <p>I realize that not everyone with children in their lives can get/afford a sitter but I do also want to point out that if you can, REST. RESET. My wife and I have Date Night. Not once a month, not occasionally. Every week. As we tell our kids: We were here before you and we'll be here after you leave, so this is our time to talk to each other. See ya!</p> <center> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-lang="en"> <p lang="en" dir="ltr">Date Night, y'all. Every week. Self care. Take the time, schedule it, pay the sitter. You'll thank yourself.</p>— Scott Hanselman (@shanselman) <a href="">September 5, 2016</a></blockquote></center><script async src="//" charset="utf-8"></script> <p>Thank you, Sarah, for sharing this important reminder with us. Cycles happen.</p> <h3>Related Reading</h3> <ul> <li><a href="">Software and Saving Babies</a> <li><a href="">Give yourself permission to have work-life balance</a> <li><a href="">Self-care matters - Pay yourself first</a></li></ul> <p>* <a href="">Burnout photo by Michael Himbeault used under CC</a></p>
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