Conform to whatever is committed to MRI. There is a standard, but it's not complete enough to ensure compatibility. The standard is describing what is already there and not meant as means for designing the language. No review process for patches.
There is the RubySpec project, which all implementations usually run at least before doing new releases. It's not currently used for designing the future of the language and all teams but the Rubinius team consider contributing to it on regular basis as too much overhead.
There is an ANSI standard, but it's not complete enough to ensure compatibility. The standard is describing what is already there and not meant as means for designing the language. Kent Beck and others criticize "Balkanization of Smalltalk" (i.e. it is not possible to write Smalltalk programs without targeting a specific implementation). No maintained reference implementation.
Alternative implementations may not be called PHP. There is no standard. Language design is interwoven with implementation design. Language quality is often criticized.
There is no official implementation, just an official test suit. In contrast to RubySpec, this is where language design is happening. There are multiple implementations treated as equals.
Standardized bytecode with well defined behavior, lots of implementation. Everyone can participate in the Java Community Process. Two implementations treated as reference implementation (OpenJDK and HotSpot).
New features are proposed via formalized process Python Enhancement Proposals, everyone may participate. Van Rossum has veto. Reference implementation. Situation close to Ruby, but formalized process.
Decided on by C++ Standards Committee, no official/reference implementation.
Decided on by ISO working group, no official/reference implementation.
Core language is designed by Ecma International (non-profit committee), client-side stdlib is designed by W3C, server-side is designed by CommonJS committee. Hard to propose changes if you are not in the committee.
Uses Erlang Enhancement Process, which is similar to Python Enhancement Proposals, but officially hosted on GitHub and proposals can be submitted as pull requests. Process is highly standardized.
Scala Improvement Documents, similar to PEPs and EEPs.
The standard MRI thinks is JIS Ruby or comming ISO Ruby.