map remote port 8888 to localhost
ssh root@213.181.111.2 -p 22408 -i ~/.ssh/id_ed25519 -L 8888:localhost:8888
grab the jupyter passwrod from runpod
JUPYTER_PASSWORD=qi14ld6tw7h4ino5fwh
set the local kernel to "exsiting one", then refer it to this url
http://localhost:8888/lab?token=qi14ld6g7h4ino56cwh
full thing here, but its a bit outdated