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Victim vs Victor

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Context Victim Victor
After complaining & moaning Feeling angry, disempowered Feeling excited, empowered
Compete for Attention, Acceptance and Approval Listen and give Attention, Acceptance and Approval
Blame others Take responsibility
Try to prove Try to improve
Example: See someone driving a better car Can't wait to get into one, how can I get one, how to learn from the driver
  • Self-acceptance starts with acknowledging that you cannot be perfect in everything, but you can be perfect in your own way.
  • You have your good and bad bits, your positives and negatives, and you need to accept and embrace them for what they are to achieve your maximum power.

3 types of victims

Type Victim Victor
Martyr victim the victim who feels sorry for themselves
Arrogant inferior victim the person who cuts others down so he or she can feel better about themself
Arrogant superior victim the person who thinks all problems are below them, that everybody else is a fool who can't do anything right
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