Too often we don’t know what to say to a person in grief, so we offer a cliché to minimize the loss. Too often we can’t stand to witness another person’s pain, so we offer a cliché to hurry the grief process. What may be a healing insight for the survivor is often an empty platitude when dispensed by others. Instead, give your presence, give your patience, and allow the griever to find his or her own path.
There are simple ways to respond that show the person you care and will be there to support them.
- I'm sorry for your loss.
- Is there any specific way I can help you right now? (Make specific suggestions, like picking up the kids, cutting the grass, etc.)