recursively gets size of object, guaranteeing not counting same obj twice. literally copied from http://stackoverflow.com/a/30316760 but might contain further improvements.

size.py

import sys
from numbers import Number
from collections import Set, Mapping, deque

try: # Python 2
    zero_depth_bases = (basestring, Number, xrange, bytearray)
    iteritems = 'iteritems'
except NameError: # Python 3
    zero_depth_bases = (str, bytes, Number, range, bytearray)
    iteritems = 'items'

def getsize(obj_0):
    """Recursively iterate to sum size of object & members."""
    def inner(obj, _seen_ids = set()):
        obj_id = id(obj)
        if obj_id in _seen_ids:
            return 0
        _seen_ids.add(obj_id)
        size = sys.getsizeof(obj)
        if isinstance(obj, zero_depth_bases):
            pass # bypass remaining control flow and return
        elif isinstance(obj, (tuple, list, Set, deque)):
            size += sum(inner(i) for i in obj)
        elif isinstance(obj, Mapping) or hasattr(obj, iteritems):
            size += sum(inner(k) + inner(v) for k, v in getattr(obj, iteritems)())
        # Check for custom object instances - may subclass above too
        if hasattr(obj, '__dict__'):
            size += inner(vars(obj))
        if hasattr(obj, '__slots__'): # can have __slots__ with __dict__
            size += sum(inner(getattr(obj, s)) for s in obj.__slots__ if hasattr(obj, s))
        return size
    return inner(obj_0)