[Recipient], this might be the most difficult conversation we will ever have. I want to share something hard that’s going on in my life, because I love and trust you, and I know you love me.
So I want to make a deal with you: I won’t try to police how you feel, and if you are angry or upset, that’s fine. But I need you to not explode or retreat. I ask that, as a once-in-a-lifetime favor to me, you listen, all the way through, and reserve judgment and questions until the end. Ultimately, I think this can be positive for both of us. Is that something we can do together?
It means a lot to me that you are willing to listen. There’s a lot to get through, so I wrote most of it down. I’m going to read it because it will make things easier, and I will give you this copy when we are done.
To get to the point, [time of realization], I came to the shocking, and completely unwelcome realization that I’m transgender.
Yes, this means that, despite being assigned [birth gender] based on my genitalia at birth, as a