I constantly had to watch my mouth, gradually working on people. With one new coworker (a dev):
- I cryptically said, "Of course, all workplaces suffer from internal politics. [shrug, big smile] So just in case you hit any silly politics from management [eyeroll]... feel free to discuss with me & hopefully I can advise you!"
- Included her on the workers' skype channel, so my radical non-dev coworkers could more easily support her
- As King Joffrey kept screwing her over, we helped her see the dynamics
One day, she had enough & quit. As a postmortem, I asked: "When you first started here, I didn't want to tell you everything upfront b/c I feared you'd think me crazy. What'd happen if I instead simply dropped my mask & warned you about everything that'd happen?"