So, I have this simple webapp I started building once that I called "encourage.io"
No need to look—it's not running at that domain or anywhere else. I got it to the point of being 70% of what I wanted, but I just had a bunch of other things take my attention.
The name had two meanings: "encourage I/O (in/out)" (as in, it encourages you to interact with people) and encourage, in that encouragement is a fundamental element of the purpose of the interactions the app is intending to create.
You simply add a name and an email address for everyone you interact with, whose interactions you want to track. You put people into different "buckets" (like: family, &yet, node, local, mentors, clients, etc.). Then you just say when you last interacted with that person in a meaningful way where you felt like you were a source of encouragement to them. You'd also set a rough time by which you wanted to interact with that person again ("three weeks" / "three months" etc) and that interval would recur by default, until you changed it.
Each day, the main view of the app would show a short list of a few people who you were encouraged to reach out to based on the goals you set. At the end of the day, you'd go through and click on any people who you actually did interact with recently, and it would reset the timeframe within with you interact with them.
I could see later having the goal for the interaction being different—but you would just set one goal with each person, like maybe instead of "encourage", you might change a client's to "touch base" or an old high school friend to "catch up", or even just "1:1", or more specific things like "ask for feedback on last project". And perhaps you'd keep notes about each person in the app.
Really, my goal was to build a tool that enabled me to keep track of all the people in my life who I wanted to stay connected to in some way, and maybe it would be useful for others.
But the more time has passed, I realize that idea is actually a tool which could allow for intentional and proactive social networking on my own terms.
Every time I think about quitting social media (or using it very differently) and what I would do differently, I think about that app.
Social media has never been for me about "What can I get from these people?" but "How can I stay connected to these people?" Every time I think about what I would lose, that's the only thing I want to keep—some mechanism that helps me do that. Even better if it did that in a much more meaningful way.