Questions to help you consider if a partner is right for you. Be sure to take a step back from your reasons for swaying one way or another, and answer as honestly as possible!
- Do you feel physically attracted to this person?
- Do you look forward to spending time with them?
- Do you feel like you don’t have to hold back who you are around them?
- Do you like the part of yourself that they bring out?
- Do you have evidence that your current lifestyles are compatible?
- What goals and dreams are important to you in your life? Are they compatible with this person’s goals and dreams?
- Do you have any principles that guide your decisions in life? If so, are you confident that they share or at least respect these?
- What are the character traits of the people you want to surround yourself with? Does this person share these traits?
- How are you and your partner's priorities different? Do you fully respect these differences?
- Would your partner want to raise kids with the same values as you?
- Do you hope this person will change in some way? If so, is it in the same way that they hope for themselves to change?
- Do you have evidence that you and your partner have the maturity and communication skills to work through conflict? What is the evidence?
- Is your partner able to follow you intellectually, to the point where you don’t feel the need to dumb things down?
- Is your partner able to connect with you emotionally, to the point where you you don’t feel the need to hide or minimize how you feel about situations in your life?
- Are you intrigued and excited by the idea of sharing a life with them?
- Do you see something in this person that makes you feel like they add something special to the world, apart from being your partner?
- Are you confident that this person respects and cares for you as much as you respect and care for them?
- Do you feel proud of them?
- Do you feel like you are personally ready to commit to putting someone else before you?