These commands are good as of 2011-07-27.
App store http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/xcode/id448457090?mt=12) The download/install takes awhile so start it first. When it finishes downloading you will still need to run it to complete installation.
Homebrew http://mxcl.github.com/homebrew/
ruby -e "$(curl -fsSL https://raw.github.com/gist/323731)"
Note that Xcode is a pre-req for Homebrew
brew install git
http://help.github.com/mac-set-up-git/
Copy over your SSH Keys from your existing machine if you have them and want to carry over your existing SSH configs.
bash < <(curl -s https://rvm.beginrescueend.com/install/rvm)
rvm install 1.9.3
rvm notes
See if there is anything in the rvm notes you need to take action on. As of this writing the compiler needs to be overridden. Create a .gemrc file and add the line gem: --no-ri --no-rdoc
rvm --default 1.8.7
rvmsudo gem install bundler
rvmsudo gem install rails
Get a DMG based and pre-compiled install from http://www.mysql.com/downloads/mysql/