When I was in high school I was forced to play football for the first time. I had kept my distance from what I now know is called the culture of masculinity that comes with these sorts of activities. I was bad at it, but that actually didn't matter. I vividly remember an argument about if I had stepped out of bounds. It was obvious that I had: I was staring at my feet, per usual.I said so. There was an insane shock. No one could believe that I would betray my team like that. I had no defense. I was just telling the truth as I had been taught to do from a young age. The thing is, the coach wasn't on my side. He told me I should have kept silent for the sake of my team.
Turns out not everyone is taught to tell the truth from a young age. The culture of masculinity teaches you to lie for the sake of your team. Only winning matters. Now I watch MRAs argue against feminism with the same reasoning. They don't care about honesty. They just want their team to win. I wonder if it's because they were taught that beating the other team is all that matters. That you should do anything you can to win. Just watch the ref. When the ref of common discourse is social norms, it's not going to be a fair game. Not that it should be a game at all.